“It’s the thought that counts”…Is for the birds!
Effortless- Requiring no physical or mental exertion or achieved with admirable ease.
I believe that appreciation is directly tied to effort put in. This is true for everything in life and especially relationships. It’s easy to go through life effortlessly. Doing what comes easy… without putting in too much effort…then wondering why it failed.
Anything that is worthwhile requires you to put some effort. Like for example, when a man truly wants to be with a woman, he will do whatever it takes to make it happen. It will require some effort on his part… and the woman knows when the effort is being put in… because it requires energy; and energy transmits. The opposite is also true. There is no quicker turn off than to feel that no effort is being put in to be with you. To feel taken for granted.
“Isn’t it romantic?”, I hear it said. What is truly being said, is that someone did something that required thought and action. Ergo effort. During one of my travels to California a few years ago, I met a couple with an interesting story of an impossible love. He told me that he would leave something on the doorstep of his beloved everyday … I can’t recall for how long this went on. I do recall that he just wanted her to know how much he loved her every day. Maybe it was her favorite coffee, a flower, the candy she liked, letters, poems, or a trinket here and there…things she would enjoy.
As we all know, in today’s world is very easy to “pretend” someone is doing when they really are not. It takes less than 30 seconds of their time to send a text or email. Even less to “like” something in platforms like Facebook or Instagram. It requires virtually no effort at all. That man obviously put in a lot of thought and effort, and knew what she liked. He never gave up…and it paid off!
Yes, I can think I should call you but unless I actually do…it’s worthless. I have heard things like “I’ve tried but…”; and I always think…“well… not hard enough”; or “How?”… “When?”…lol. When you really really want something … you make it happen! Simply… you put in the effort.
You may think about gifting me something you know I would love; but unless you actually buy it or make it …and make the effort to bring it to me… don’t bother saying it! Seriously…don’t talk about taking me on a romantic getaway… book it!. Who has time to waste like that?
One hears, “It’s the thought that counts” …well but I don’t subscribe to that thought at all; because I think that’s not really true. Thinking and doing are two very different things.
